What;s Life Like After Rehab? Addiction Solutions - beating my addiction
What about my relationship? What
will my family think if they find out that I'm going to rehab? What about life
after rehab? Can I stay sober after rehab or is going to be a losing battle?
Facing these issues can be enough to not even try. It seems so much easier to
struggle on in meth's death grip than it is to become clean and face all these issues.
I really just wanted to quit and move on with my life - of course, not
expecting the loss that would come with quitting. I did desperately want Mark
to quit but I just knew that he wouldn't; he never thought meth was our
problem, only mine. He said that I couldn't handle it. Yeah, I couldn't. I
didn't know how life would be after meth but I just knew that I had to quit; so
I jumped off the cliff (so to say) and called my dad and told him what was
going on. What now? I no longer could go back to Mark unless I wanted to deal
with meth in my face every day. I was going to have to leave him and that was a
wonderful relationship completely torn apart by meth. I had a horse, dog, and
all my earthly possession stuck at Mark's house. I had a job that I might be
able to keep if I meet all the criteria (but ended up losing). I have no money
because I'm not getting pain while on leave. My car was buried in five feet of
snow and I had counseling appointments to get to if I wanted to keep that job
(that I ended up losing). All of this was waiting for me once I was able to
pick my head off my dad's floor where I had been sleeping for about 4 days
coming down. I woke up to a freezing New Year's Eve and all this stress. It
could make a person want to use again. Because most people have no clue how to
beat porn addiction, they do what doesn't work. The most common approach to try
and help someone overcome pornography addiction is to make them feel bad.
Parents use this approach, wives use this approach, pastors use this approach.
They worse you make them feel, the faster they should change, right? And every
time it gets the same result: it creates a better liar. Why? Because the
motivation of how to beat porn addiction for this guy is that he feels really
bad. And this can motivate him for a certain amount of time. But if
"feeling bad" is his main motivation for change, he will be punishing
himself for his behavior. This will quickly put him out of balance, and when he
gets out of balance his brain will begin to crave the old outlet. Even if his
pornography addiction doesn't give him long term satisfaction, his brain will
crave the short term release. The further he gets out of balance, the more
intense the cravings. Having cravings will make him feel really bad. Because
his motivation for change was feeling bad, he won't allow himself to feel joy
in life. He is bad. He should be punished. He needs to work extra hard for
being such a bad boy. Soon, life holds no joy. And he gets further out of
balance. And the cravings for the old behavior get worse. The cravings take
over his life. It's all he can think about. And he begins to compare and
contrast his current life with the feelings he got from pornography addiction.
This isn't intentional at first. It's just what his brain does. He sees how
unfulfilled his life is now, and remembers how intense things were before, and
he longs to feel good. Unfortunately, one of the only ways he knows how to feel
the naturally occurring feel good chemicals that his body produces is to look
at porn. And before he knows it, he finds himself fantasizing about doing it
again. He gets a little taste of the brain chemicals when he does this, and it
intensifies the cravings.
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